I’m realizing more and more that my time is limited. I want to be able to do it all, but I can only do so many things in a day. So many things demand my attention. And I’m not even a mother yet! I feel for all of you who have small children! I’m learning that I must prioritize what I do based on the season of life I am in.
Prioritizing keeps us focused on the best things instead of just the good things.
So be careful how you live. Don’t live like fools, but like those who are wise. Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days. Don’t act thoughtlessly, but understand what the Lord wants you to do. – Ephesians 5:15-17 NLT
To prioritize our life, we must figure out what is most important to us in the season that we are in and make decisions with our time that follow our priorities. Here is where I want my priorities to lie:
1) Relationship with God
I must nurture my relationship with God, seeking Him first and loving Him with everything I am. I have a great desire to study His Word more and more and I want to make time for that. I also must spend time in prayer and communicate with Him to let Him lead in my life. If I seek to honor and glorify Him in all that I do, the rest will fall into place.
But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. – Matthew 6:33 NASB
Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment.” – Matthew 22:37-38 NLT
2) Relationship with Husband
Marriage is a priority. God gave me a wonderful husband and He wants me to love and serve him in love. I must make a priority to spend time with him and communicate. I must make sure he comes after God but before other things.
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. – Ecclesiastes 4:9 NLT
But ‘God made them male and female’ from the beginning of creation. ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together. – Mark 10:6-9 NLT
3) Care and Teaching of Children
Some people will disagree that children come after their husband, but I believe that God’s plan is for the husband and wife to prioritize their relationship with God first then each other. Only after those relationships are prioritized can they be well equipped to raise their children to serve the Lord. The strength of the marriage relationship impacts the children greatly. I don’t have children yet but I want to follow this when I do. Teaching our children the ways of the Lord and caring for their needs is very important, and a husband and wife with a good marriage relationship can do this together in a much better way.
And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. – Deuteronomy 6:6-7 NLT
Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it. – Proverbs 22:6 NLT
4) Health and Home
I want to be healthy so that I can serve others effectively and I want to model a healthy lifestyle for my family. This means preparing nutritious meals, getting exercise, and resting when needed. I also want to keep a clean and tidy home for my family and myself so that we can enjoy time together without worrying about messes.
Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body. – 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 NLT
So whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. – 1 Corinthians 10:31 NLT
She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. – Proverbs 31:27 NLT
…encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored. – Titus 2:4-5 NASB
5) Work and Ministry
If you must make an income for your family or if you have a ministry, or both, these would come next. Right now, I work outside the home for an income. This blog isn’t producing any income at this time, but even so, I still want to be able to post regularly so I can encourage women and give them hope. I also lead a Bible study with my readers. That is my ministry. I also want to do freelance writing for other publications. I’ve written a couple guest posts for other bloggers (you can find the first one here) and I will be published in Lifeway’s Journey devotional in a few months. Before expanding my reach in these things, I should given my focus to my other priorities first.
Lazy people want much but get little, but those who work hard will prosper. – Proverbs 13:4 NLT
Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. – Colossians 3:23 NLT
God has given each of you a gift from His great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another. – 1 Peter 4:10 NLT
So taking these priorities I have set for myself, I can make better decisions on how to use my time. It takes wisdom and discernment to make the right decision. Sometimes I may be exhausted from lack of sleep and I have to make the best choice for my time. Do I rest or try to write a freelance piece? Based on my priorities list, I should rest. Sometimes I may have a mountain of laundry that needs to be done but I also need to write a blog post. Using my priority list, I should do the laundry first.
Sometimes I may have dishes that need to be washed but my husband is only home for a short amount of time that day. Again, using my priority list, I would spend time with my husband and do the dishes later. And as always, I should be spending time with God first and foremost. Sometimes we can be so drained of energy and we need to seek God for refreshment and rest before we can do anything else. Remember to seek God first and all the other things will fall into place.
So do you have a list of priorities? What’s important to you? Let me know in the comments below!